From Today Everything Changes

Before Chris’s wife died, she made him promise to be himself. She had known he was gay before he did, but things were different in those daysand you stayed together. Newly widowed and embracing ‘from today everything changes’, he begins online dating, not really believing he has anything to offer – especially to men younger than his own pensionable age. Grindr is confusing and he is stood up by a few men before he meets the perennially late forty something man who is interested enough in him to want to form a relationship.

This is a pertinent tale which should of course be told

The daunting nature of dating after a relationship of thirty plus years strikes a chord regardless of sexuality. The fact that at over sixty years old, Chris has never courted a man. He doesn’t know what to do, which could make for some shy awkward moments which weren’t shown as well as they could have been. His life is not without difficulties, he seems to have a temper he struggles to control and he’s incredibly insecure. He sweetly hopes his partner doesn’t object to him having a family – a son and daughter and grandson. He has an interesting relationship with his daughter, who at first blows up due to shock, but then becomes so incredibly understanding and is instrumental in patching things up between her dad and partner when things go wrong. This is not unbelievable per se, but there was little emotional journey for the daughter to work through, it appeared very simplified in the telling.

This is a laudable subject, very worthy and fairly unknown, so perhaps unique in terms of exposure at theatre level. However, the piece is more a narration of a story than a play, controlled by the main character, Chris. Everything is told to the audience – how he feels, what they looked like, even when the wine is poured, all in specific detail. The two other players in the piece – the new boyfriend and the daughter, sit at the back throughout the piece until they are required to come forward. The mixture of audio book, radio play and narrated story is a little confusing. We're here to watch a play, and you don’t get what you expect. The characters are downplayed and the actors have a lot less to do as everything about them is explained to the audience. As the audience it is important to see and feel what the characters go through rather than have it described to us.

This is a pertinent tale which should of course be told, but the way it is told is also very important. The message that this is the first day of the rest of your life is a vital one to be telling, and while the actors did their jobs reasonably well, it could have been so much better.

Reviews by Susanne Crosby

The Place Theatre, Bradgate Road

Every Time A Bell Rings

★★★
New Venture Theatre

Talk

★★★★
Brighton Open Air Theatre

The Amazing Adventures of Little Red

★★★★
Rialto Theatre

Quentin Crisp: Naked Hope

★★★★★
Rialto Theatre

Numbers

★★★★★
MEET: Brighton Spiegeltent

This Noisy Isle

★★★★

Since you’re here…

… we have a small favour to ask. We don't want your money to support a hack's bar bill at Abattoir, but if you have a pound or two spare, we really encourage you to support a good cause. If this review has either helped you discover a gem or avoid a turkey, consider doing some good that will really make a difference.

You can donate to the charity of your choice, but if you're looking for inspiration, there are three charities we really like.

Mama Biashara
Kate Copstick’s charity, Mama Biashara, works with the poorest and most marginalised people in Kenya. They give grants to set up small, sustainable businesses that bring financial independence and security. That five quid you spend on a large glass of House White? They can save someone’s life with that. And the money for a pair of Air Jordans? Will take four women and their fifteen children away from a man who is raping them and into a new life with a moneymaking business for Mum and happiness for the kids.
Donate to Mama Biashara now

Theatre MAD
The Make A Difference Trust fights HIV & AIDS one stage at a time. Their UK and International grant-making strategy is based on five criteria that raise awareness, educate, and provide care and support for the most vulnerable in society. A host of fundraising events, including Bucket Collections, Late Night Cabarets, West End Eurovision, West End Bares and A West End Christmas continue to raise funds for projects both in the UK and Sub-Saharan Africa.
Donate to Theatre MAD now

Acting For Others
Acting for Others provides financial and emotional support to all theatre workers in times of need through the 14 member charities. During the COVID-19 crisis Acting for Others have raised over £600,000 to support theatre workers affected by the pandemic.
Donate to Acting For Others now

Performances

Location

The Blurb

Before Chris’s wife died, after over 30 years of marriage, she made him promise to be himself. Accepting he’s gay is only the beginning. Online dating is a whole new world; can this younger man really be interested in him? And how does he come out to his daughter? Ian Tucker-Bell’s heart-warming play returns to Edinburgh, taking a humorous, honest and tender look at a 60-year-old man coming out and finding love. 'A moving, exquisite production, telling an important and pertinent story' (The730Review.co.uk).

Most Popular See More

Wicked

From £24.00

More Info

Find Tickets

Mamma Mia!

From £18.00

More Info

Find Tickets

Dear Evan Hansen

From £30.00

More Info

Find Tickets

The Lion King

From £36.00

More Info

Find Tickets

Pretty Woman: The Musical

From £18.00

More Info

Find Tickets

Life of Pi

From £19.00

More Info

Find Tickets