Darling, It’s Not About You
  • By Elaine C
  • |
  • 10th Feb 2020
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  • ★★★

Love is never easy. When one half of a couple strays, the complications begin. Using a bouquet of red roses that were placed in the circle by Susanna (Julie Thurston), she and Joel (Chris Mohan) moved around within that circle as their relationship blossomed and grew. Both spoke openly about what love meant to them as a couple.

A candid and honest approach.

For a play about love it was slightly confusing in the beginning. As Michelle (Amy Leeson) stood to one side of the stage and as the play progresses you discover who she is – the other woman who Susanna has no idea about. Her monologue discuss how she feels as the misstress, and what love with Joel meant to her.

I found the lack of emotional outbursts somewhat unusual considering the highly emotive situation that the three characters were in, however seeing emotions expressed in a rational understanding made for a refreshing change.

As the title suggests, Darling It's not about you describes exactly what the three-way relationship explores. That love, and what it means, is completely individual to each of the three characters. How you envisage love to be and how long you expect it to last, along with your expectations from the person. All of these were explored in detail.

The dialogue appeared to being spoken as an internal monologue. Breaking through the fourth wall as the ladies explained to the audience how they saw their relationships with Joel.

It had a candid and honest approach with strong matter-of-fact conversations taking place between the cast that you would not have necessarily expected. A very good debut play for director Bethany Fox.

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The Blurb

Part of Six Plays One Day at the Tristan Bates Theatre

Produced by Threedumb Theatre 

Sponsored by the Liverpool Institute for Performing Arts.

Following the success of last year’s premier event, Threedumb Theatre is proud to return to the Tristan Bates Theatre for another whole day of one-act plays, showcasing a wide variety of new writing.

8th February 2020


Darling, It’s Not About You

by Julia Thurston and Sof Puchley

“Do relationships last when the attraction is magnetic? Or are things moving too fast for your first love to feel poetic?” 

Michelle, Joel and Susanna are all struggling to come to terms with the fact that throughout their experiences of casual dating, hook-ups and relationships, no one’s ever really loved them back.

And then they find each other.

But things are more difficult than they seem when Michelle falls for Joel, and Joel falls for Susanna. As they move through their relationships with each other, they find they have different opinions about what’s more important in love. Is it feelings, attraction, or commitment? Does love conquer all even when someone makes a big mistake? Or were they unsure of their feelings to begin with? ‘Darling it’s Not About You’ tells a story about the trials and tribulations of young love and hookup culture, all told through spoken-word poetry.

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